Living a Facade?

Cornerstone

The cornerstone was the first stone set when embarking upon a new building project.  It was imperative this stone be set correctly since all remaining stones would be set around it.  If the cornerstone was off, the entire building was at a high risk of being unstable. Considerable time and energy had to be spent to ensure that this one stone was secure in its proper place.

I am not a builder, so I can admit that I am naïve and ignorant to the building process. I thought if a stone was off then you could somehow make alterations and fix it at any point during the building process.

Add extra cement here, an extra brick there and Voila! Maybe even use nice plants and shrubs around it to mask the flaws.

Truth is, if the cornerstone was off, the entire building was unstable.

Nowadays cornerstones are decorative, they aren’t as structurally necessary as they once were. But that’s not the point of this writing. 

Scriptures teach us Christ Jesus himself is the chief cornerstone. “In him the whole building is joined together and rises to become a holy temple in the Lord. And in him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit” (Ephesians 2:20-22, NIV).

Is your relationship with Jesus something merely decorative, like a modern day cornerstone?   Maybe you acknowledge Christ, but think a relationship with Him is not necessary to the structure and purpose of your life.

This is flawed thinking and can lead to your destruction. And yet the enemy has fooled lots of us into thinking that a relationship with Jesus Christ isn’t necessary.  People are constantly tempted to find happiness and success in so many other people, places and things. 

Ultimately, if one is not careful, a relationship with Christ is never firmly set in its proper place and thus everything else is out of place. One may fail to see this until their lives are shaken and begin to reveal a crumbling infrastructure. 

Let me be clear. Living a life without Christ as the chief cornerstone will leave you unbalanced, unsteady and unsure. Curtains and pretty paint can cover up for some time, but for how long? Eventually, uneven foundations and unsteady walls will crumble.

Trust me, I have experienced this personally. The façade I was once living apart from Him now fuels my passion for Christ and spreading the gospel.

But you must examine yourself. How important is your relationship with Jesus Christ? Have you made Him the chief cornerstone in your life? What changes do you need to make in your life?

A life with Jesus as the cornerstone provides us the stability and security that we long for in this world. A safe place from the hurts and pain we may experience. A place where His truth reigns.

We can be sure that a life built on the chief cornerstone, Jesus Christ, will not fail.

Father,

Examine the heart of every reader. I ask the conviction of the Holy Spirit would rest upon them and bring them to repentance and a closer relationship with You.  Father, You alone are holy, righteousness and truth. You have the truth our souls long for. You are worth setting aside the façade in exchange for Your truth. Show Yourself strong and trustworthy in our lives. Amen.

Do you need to admit when you’re lost? Go ahead and double back.

My husband has a hard-fast rule that there is to be NO “doubling back” when driving on road trips…you know when you mistakenly pass your exit and instead of making a quick U-turn you keep going-insisting that there’s another way to your destination.  I totally understand the logic—

It’s a time waster...

There’s got to be a different route…

While I understand the logic, I’m not sure that it’s always the wisest decision to make. Why not stop, examine the situation and turn around and get back on the best path, rather than continuing in a direction that is unfamiliar.  Why take the risk of driving into unfamiliar territory?

I am in a season of ‘doubling back’. I am returning home to be with my children, leaving a career I LOVED, leaving awesome co-workers…leaving that income (*tear).  To come back home. 

I say “back” because this time last year I was a stay at home mom.  I cared for my husband, children and home, with passion. But then along came a job offer, it was that “dream” job and it just seemed silly to pass it up. 

It was an opportunity to use my degree AND contribute financially, an opportunity to ‘be myself’.

Finally, an answer to, “What about me , Lord”?

So I accepted the position, gave it everything I had. Failing to realize I’m only one person and in giving my job everything I had, it left little for those I truly cared for; my husband and children. 

But this depletion came stealthily, I started out just part time, and then the offer came to work full time, included a pay raise. I had to take it, right? I would just find a full time sitter for my youngest and we would OK.

We had extra money, but I had no extra energy. I couldn’t find the energy to cook, take the time to read to my little ones, much less ensure that my husband’s needs (such as clean laundry) were met.

Some free advice: When your kid asks for a vegetable rather than the usual veggie chip, you might have a problem.

Relaxing meals at the dinner table became places of half completed homework, fights, yelling and a clear exhibit of impatience.  My snappy comments and curt language was becoming infectious and within a month we were each biting each other’s head off.  Are you envious yet?  

The next month I got smart, I tried all kinds of solutions. I found a full-time sitter that would provide home cooked meals for my youngest. I ordered a meal plan service to help at dinner time. And began to utilize after care services for my school age children.

But our home was still a wreck.  

I won’t bore you with months 3 & 4, lets just say month 5 is when I looked myself in the mirror and said,

“Tori, you need to double back.  Just hit the brakes, no matter who is disappointed. At this point you are out of balance and not caring for the ones the Lord blessed you with”. 

My husband is great, and the realization that I have neglected him for something else sickened me to my core.  I literally couldn’t sleep and kept asking the Lord for a ‘nice’ way out of this problem.  Yes I was looking for the punk way out of this situation. 

He caused me to pause and look at the last few months and truly access the situation. He showed me that doubling back isn’t a problem or necessarily a bad thing.

I had to stand on His Word and trust that He is our provider. But also if I’m going to have a full plate, it better have my husband and kids on it.

I had to have the hard conversation with my boss and co worker.  I sat and typed up a letter of resignation. I pinned my date of departure.  In ink. Irrevocable. 

Do I regret it? Absolutely not! I’m grateful for His Spirit that wouldn’t let me find rest in the midst of this season of imbalance.

That was May 22, 2017.  When I look back I can’t believe the way my life has changed since then.  Harmony is back in our home. I have a new focus and direction, which includes this website and blog. 

Do you need to admit when you’re lost? Go ahead and double back. When you ask the Father for direction you will find that doubling back isn’t so bad.

Do you need to evaluate some areas of your life or marriage? Are you persistently plowing forward when you could just stop and ask for direction? Trust me, I get it!

I’ve shared a little about myself, now tell me about yourself in the comment section below and lets together build a community that will stop and pray for direction.

Father, In Psalm 37, your word promises us that You direct our paths when we delight ourselves in you. Rekindle the fire of delight in us O God. I ask you to be with every reader and give them light for their journey. May they boldly seek after your glory in their lives as you give direction and protection to pursue the right things for your glory and your purposes. Amen.